People are complex, they have different experiences, sometimes all at the same time. Someone can be suffering from cancer ... and go for a swim. This might be jarring watching one video to the next, but that's on the viewer to manage.
I think people expect managed tonal shifts like a movie or TV show, but that's not life.
The folks most active on the internet judgment train don't operate like that, it's all or nothing, you're great, or you're horrible. Anything that reminds the judgment bots of past bad behavior, even by other people, you're all possible suspects the moment they recognize some "clue".
It's sad / scary stuff. I think most internet users aren't that way, but the ones who are, seem to be inexhaustible.
Same on Reddit for leaving that sub up ...
ivape•9mo ago
Cancer is very serious, it has to be treated with a certain honor. I can see how people are off put by it being thrown into the Influencer grinder. Likewise, those who consume this content are also parasitic and it shows. Reminds me a little bit of the Terri Schiavo horror show, where her vegetative state was used for politics. Some things are sacred.
It's impossible to paint the woman in question as wrong or bad because she is the one with cancer. Yet, I can't seem to entirely absolve her and it's not her fault. It's the whole thing, her, the fans, the mechanism and the phenomena of Influencing is just gross. Sometimes you have to realize the situation is bigger than big, and influencing and trending videos are huge, but this cancer thing is bigger. To her credit and young people in general, I don't think they know how to handle serious life things outside of the social media framework (hey I just got shot, let me go live - no, maybe have a private call with your loved ones about your final moments). What do they really know about quiet despair or quiet hope? For every viral video she made in chemo, there's thousands of others who wish they could get such fan-fare or even anyone to care or visit them. So it's very much in poor taste.
How do you teach a generation that hasn't been taught anything? Where do you begin?
whyenot•9mo ago
ivape•9mo ago
duxup•9mo ago
That seems like an absurd standard... this person has cancer and now we're supposed to put the world of "not everyone" on them and expect them to what? Not post anything?
ivape•9mo ago
Comedy might be the best analogy. There are ways to do it around sensitive topics. The go-ahead to do something is not as simple as "well I think it's funny", or in this case "well I'm the one that's dying".
decimalenough•9mo ago
ivape•9mo ago
decimalenough•9mo ago
> The whole thing is very somber and needs to be handled in that way
Why does it "need" to be that way? Who are you to tell her how to live her life and handle her potential death? Are the Irish also "wrong" for having happy drinking parties at funerals where they reminisce about the dead, instead of sitting around mourning?
ivape•9mo ago
duxup•9mo ago