I feel like you may be one of those managers that wants to schedule more meetings for me and have 1:1's and "coach" and all that. When all I really want is to be left alone to do my work in my sweet home office.

You could ask: What can I do to better support you?

But it is possible they won't say anything because you are in a position of power and therefore they may not trust you with very personal details. It also put the onus on them to "educate" you on their condition, which makes people even more self-conscious.

An alternative is to offer options ahead of time. But make sure they can think about it before answering. Not everyone enjoys being put on the spot.

Read up on various types of neurodivergence and learn how to use each person's strengths best. Figure out what might trigger them and try to avoid such situations by providing your support. You can even use an LLM to role play.

Be careful: everyone is different, so don't overgeneralize from what an AI blurts out or what one person on your team does or prefers.

The most important thing is to be empathetic.

P.S. Managers with knowledge of (organizational) psychology are surprisingly rare. Most haven't a clue, and it shows.