Still applies I guess.

This:

“No one comes to mind? Maybe you haven’t really trusted anyone with your wins yet.”

really, really hit me for some reason. I’m pretty averse to praise/congratulations — even if I feel it’s deserved! — so I don’t really share my wins with people. How can I expect to have people hype me up if I don’t let them in a little? It’s obvious when I write it all out but I kinda can’t believe how long I’ve been operating this way.

Anyway, great post!

Whoever wrote this post is really rocking with the clear human thinking.

I would add to bias towards praise, but still be honest and judicious. People know when they hear empty words, and it's important to be trustworthy.

“This is a message that a lot of people need to hear,” says blogger.

Here’s some memes from 2012 to now.

Sounds good? It was, except...most of that bonding was based on lowkey negativity by a set of people who felt powerless, complaining about how others were terrible. Some in this network went down a rabbithole of resentment and are still there. The reality is that yes, there was lots of stuff to be grumpy about.

Rooting for your friends is great. But people sometimes bond over wishing harm for their foes. Shared trauma does that. I personally try to avoid that mindset.

I’m guilty of it myself of course, but it seems like there is some kind of naturally adversarial behavior baked into me. It literally just makes things worse is the funny thing, and I already know this. But sometimes I cant stop it. Life would be easier and better if we were all collectively friendly hypemen but alas.

https://secularbuddhism.com/blog/204-beyond-happiness/

https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/237182/root

I love people like that!!

Friends and strangers who try and aren’t quitters.

Since then, I put 5 out of 5 on everyone for everything always, and say something nice in all the boxes.