At work, we've got a CRM for clients, to remind ourselves to message people. I just needed something much smaller, just to remind myself to message friends and family.
Friends, best friends, and family have different cadences that this will generate tickets to remind you to message them. Feel free to use, as I'll continue to host this just for myself regardless.
This also works for anniversaries and other dates and can usually be color coded.
My solution: A simple spreadsheet and a reminder The spreadsheet has "contact every 3 weeks", "contact every 2 mos", "contact every 90 days".
I have a reminder in my todoist app to look at the spreadsheet every 2 weeks.
To track birthdays I used google calendar.
I suppose if you have a who lot of friends that a database would be a better option. For me, I only track about 45 people and my system works just fine.
So you have a database, it's just someone else's and it's called todoist.
Not everyone's brain works the same way. For people with ADHD (and other neurodivergent conditions), executive dysfunction can make it really hard to remember to reach out -- even to people they care about deeply. It's not about not valuing the friendship; it's about how memory and motivation work differently.
Instead of disparaging people for using tools that help them maintain relationships, maybe try having a little empathy -- or at the very least, an open mind. Not everyone connects the way you do, and that doesn't make their friendships any less real.
This kind of tool can be a be useful crutch / prosthetic memory.
From the first sentence, sounds like this isn’t an option. I can relate.
They burned it all for short term clicks and now if I look at my feed I get content mills and only a handful of people who still do updates, and the notifications it sends to me "someone whose profile you haven't looked at in years has some comments on it" feel more and more desperate.
The same way I find meditation apps sad.
We're trying to use tech to solve problems caused by too much tech.
...tech help solving them is welcome!
Also esp when friends use snapchat/instagram/discord/signal/whatsapp/imessage/sms and that one weirdo that only has an email. I barely open my socials, but it doesn't mean I don't value those friendships.
I live a long distance from my parents and siblings - technology helps me retain some closeness with them that would not otherwise be possible.
I live close to my children. Technology could be a barrier to closeness with them.
If anything, I'd like it to go further - (privacy aside) integrating with email and communicators to automatically remind me of birthdays, friends I didn't message for a while, their kids names etc.
"Make as much money as possible regardless of ethical or moral issues" will some how allow you to "strategically investing helping the most people as possible"
But providing personal info to an anonymous external website is a blocking point. I've used such a service in the past, and I ended up building an encryption layer on top of it so I had friends with names like QXJ0ZW1pcyBZYWdvdQo=.
Do you consider also providing the software for people to self-host?
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