But, really, women seeing having to take the husband's name as a reason not to marry? I mean, sure, that's rather restrictive for no good reason. But from where I stand, if you're thinking of marrying someone, and having to change your name is your reason not to, you don't really want to marry them very much.
(Easy enough for me to say as a male. But would I have changed my name to marry my wife? Absolutely.)
dnemmers•8mo ago
Taking your partners name can be seen as embracing ‘traditional gender roles’, and can be an indicator of other ‘traditional’ views on gender equality and independence.
Additionally, without seeing how the polling was done, this option may be seen as better than more ‘selfish’ reasons.
reverendsteveii•8mo ago
you assume they're in a situation where they've selected a husband and the name change is the last hurdle. assume they're young and in the "developing a rough outline for how I want my life to go" phase instead. that's where considerations like this get made.
2cynykyl•8mo ago
Easy solution: just don't change your name! Our boys have my last name and our girls (if we'd had any) would have had my wife's last name. We didn't have girls so I don't have data on how that would've worked but seems line a no-brainer to me.
Arnt•8mo ago
Having read about Japanese marriages, I assume that women are often thinking something like like: "There's no way I'm going to have the kind of marriage that involves changing my name. Another kind of marriage maybe BUT NOT THAT KIND."
If my assumption is wrong and they're instead thinking "I'd quite like that kind of marriage in general, but I'm not going to change my name", then there's an easy fix, as you suggest.
mc3301•8mo ago
By law, married partners must share the same last name in Japan. It is rare, but possible for the man to change his name.
This is important for the official family register.
So not changing a name is literally not an option.
And in Japan, the land of paperwork, changing your name is a whole lot of paperwork and headaches.
AnimalMuppet•8mo ago
But, really, women seeing having to take the husband's name as a reason not to marry? I mean, sure, that's rather restrictive for no good reason. But from where I stand, if you're thinking of marrying someone, and having to change your name is your reason not to, you don't really want to marry them very much.
(Easy enough for me to say as a male. But would I have changed my name to marry my wife? Absolutely.)
dnemmers•8mo ago
Additionally, without seeing how the polling was done, this option may be seen as better than more ‘selfish’ reasons.
reverendsteveii•8mo ago
2cynykyl•8mo ago
Arnt•8mo ago
If my assumption is wrong and they're instead thinking "I'd quite like that kind of marriage in general, but I'm not going to change my name", then there's an easy fix, as you suggest.
mc3301•8mo ago
This is important for the official family register.
So not changing a name is literally not an option.
And in Japan, the land of paperwork, changing your name is a whole lot of paperwork and headaches.