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Still waiting to see effective solutions being implemented.
What are the multiple approaches you've tried?
Sample size issue?
"Thanks for being honest and I wish you the best with your search.
If you have a moment, would you be able to give me a few suggestions on how I could improve? Is it something obvious I can work on but just not aware of? Like my breath stinks? Or clothes don't fit properly? Or I come off as rude or closed off? Of course, no pressure to answer. Just trying to figure out how I can improve myself. Thank you."
Would you be interested in an open ended first date sim? It could be voice so you get used to voice; one issue I have is I can type well but the brain circuits don't trigger the same way when talking.
Possibly start with an interested date at lower difficulty - someone who asks you the questions and coaches you into interesting answers. Then ramps up to shy/unfriendly where you have to work to get them engaged.
Lonely? Why not talk to machines?
Grim.
When people say they're unattractive, often it's not because they're ugly. Ugly is a disadvantage, but not the biggest one.
For both men and women, it's usually because they lack confidence. Or they're boring. Or sleazy. If you're getting into a first date and not a second, you're likely attractive enough on the 'resume', just messing up on the actual date. You might be saying something wrong. You might be delivering a good joke the wrong way. Sometimes it's just saying things in the wrong order.
The longer they go without some form of success, the less confident they become.
I thought the diagnosis was fairly clear; sorry for jumping straight to pitching a cure. This is a good example of saying things in the wrong order.
That you think LLMs are the cure to loneliness misses what a "cure" even looks like here. OP clearly writes well enough to get first dates - the issue isn't conversational content but likely body language, energy, presence, the thousand micro-signals that happen below conscious awareness. You can't chatbot your way into better posture or more relaxed eye contact.
This is classic LLM wrapper syndrome. Someone has a hammer (conversational AI) so every problem looks like a nail (conversation optimization). But the actual failure mode here probably happens in the first thirty seconds of meeting, before anyone's even said anything substantive.
Op would probably benefit more from something social like improv classes (physical presence, spontaneity), dance lessons (body awareness, comfort with proximity), or honestly just hanging out in social spaces doing things they actually enjoy rather than performing "date behaviors." The energy of someone genuinely engaged in something they love is magnetic in ways that no amount of conversation optimization can replicate.
I just don't believe that "practice talking to a computer" will ever be a sufficient platform to teach people how to be genuinely charming, let alone charmingly genuine.
Are you looking because you're lonely, bored or just because that's what you think is expected?
Your framework’s intriguing. If it can map this to clear business outcomes (e.g., ‘X% faster delivery in 3 months’), I’d test it. What’s your angle—systems thinking, behavioral psychology, or something else?
P.S. For context: I lead eng at a Series B SaaS co. My ‘stuck’ example: Tech debt costs us ~20% velocity, but ROI arguments fail with revenue-focused execs.
The problem you're trying to solve is not that features get more prioritisation, but your estimations doesn't reflect the reality and your code-review process is broken as engineers are not spotting growing technical debt and refactoring opportunities and think that someone should give them a permission or create a ticket to work on that.
This is engineering culture 101 (look up the boyscout rule in software engineering).
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Here is a definition of my mental illness: https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/schizoaffecti...
Here is some more: https://www.bridgestorecovery.com/schizoaffective-disorder/l...
Employers do not like me having it because it makes it harder to do work and some days are worse than others. Management just doesn't understand my mental illness so I am on disability because I cannot hold down a job.
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