It is impossible for 2 typical wage earners to pair off and start a family.
If you find that that special someone, you will work things out (and parents may be able to help), it's strange to hear an economic argument being made for not showing an interest in the opposite sex.
Me and my 5 adult sons live together. We talk about these things so I know.
> If you find that that special someone, you will work things out
Math says no. Two people working full time who make 60% of basic bills isn't sustainable. They might 'work things out' for one month or three.
But as long as that goes on, stress will grow. That kind of stress eats hope. Eventually the couple will lapse into survival mode where every day is numb.
The solution to this isn't more Will or Love or Good Thoughts.
The solution is an economy where a couple can support themselves on ≤2 typical incomes.
Waiting for politicians and corporations to fix the economy is like waiting for parasites to produce a corn field.
This economy is so bad we can’t even afford recreational sex!
Maybe I was one of the last "lucky ones" that did my teens and twenties when 'dating' was less official and its was closer to just, I like spending time with you.
In an ever increasingly connected population, and over sharing being the norm, long-term evidence of mistakes and minor indiscretions (read: not advocating anything harmful) could haunt a person for life.
Sometimes the only way to win, is to not play.
Also marriage. And parenting.
Which makes you pretty correct about the relationship part.
And yes we are over connected and over sharing but everyone can change his own fate here.. just get rid of all the social networks and meet people in real life. It is possible.
I truly think that social media is one of the worst things that happened to mankind and we still have not fully grasped all the damage it does. (And here I do not refer to occasional posting in web forums or HN or such.. but the mindless, addictive participation in Facebook, Tiktok etc. where the only gain is a dopamine hit.)
I think that relationships are crucial for the quality of living and not seeking depth in those may be more detrimental than most things I mentioned above.
Especially, the today's 'connected' societies which often give false premise of socializing and promote ideas of isolating yourself from deeper relationships.
Amazing that the author tip toed around that part of it.
Hey, not all floor-mattress folk are degenerates.
pinewurst•9h ago