So because it has a foreign name its not rich influencer nonsense?
> The estimated cost for a pui yuet in Hong Kong ranges from 63,800 Hong Kong dollars (US $8,100) to 268,000 Hong Kong dollars (US $34,100) for 26 to 30 nights for a live-in nanny
This is really spendy even for china.
DemocracyFTW2•6mo ago
I think the answer is really in the section titled "Lack of postpartum care in the US"
oceanhaiyang•6mo ago
I think it’s lack of postpartum care and individualism restricting what family members are willing to do for one another. As someone between both world I think there ought to be a mix between individualism and filial piety.
oceanhaiyang•6mo ago
As someone with a lot of Chinese family and children it can be as expensive or as cheap as possible. The expensive end includes a live in helper who does everything including cook and take care of baby when mama isn’t breast feeding them.
I wish I could have afforded this because American families do not help enough. Chinese side spoils our child and is, American side not so much…
oceanhaiyang•6mo ago
It’s not called zuo yuezi it’s just yuezi, or a month of confinement postpartum. Zuo just means to do.
blackbear_•6mo ago
Afaik zuoyezi (坐月子) also works, the zuo meaning "to sit".
bell-cot•6mo ago
Back in the day, my middle-class American family's default was that the maternal grandmother moved in for the first 2 weeks postpartum, and the paternal grandmother moved in for the second 2 weeks. There could be quite a bit of family support above or beyond that, if needed.
As mom described it, the right mentality was not "grandma is here to take charge", but "grandma is temporary help, in your home, and stepping back from things every day as you recover".
billy99k•6mo ago
A friend's wife did this in Taiwan. It was around $8,000 USD. They had no family support and used a service that essentially was a hotel with round-the-clock care for her and the baby.
zer00eyz•6mo ago
> The estimated cost for a pui yuet in Hong Kong ranges from 63,800 Hong Kong dollars (US $8,100) to 268,000 Hong Kong dollars (US $34,100) for 26 to 30 nights for a live-in nanny
This is really spendy even for china.
DemocracyFTW2•6mo ago
oceanhaiyang•6mo ago
oceanhaiyang•6mo ago
I wish I could have afforded this because American families do not help enough. Chinese side spoils our child and is, American side not so much…