There is a game I invented a few years ago called "Take it Personal". The game is generally played by 2 players and the goal is for one person to say something anodyne and for the other to find a way to take offense. You can play symmetrically or designating one player as the attacker. It is a very easy game. One reliable attacker move is to find an omission (for example something they could have said that was better, but they chose the lesser, clearly to hurt your feelings). The other is to amplify and distort what the defender said into the most negative possible direction. If the defender attempts to "undermine" the attack, it becomes very easy since all criticism can be take as either gaslighting or doubling down. Plus, the emotions associated with grievance will increase the plausibility of claims that these are simply more attacks. It is not a pleasant game.

But it is instructive. I highly suggest that all people play this game at least once. It gives you a greater appreciation for when it is played in public.