Definitely resonating with some of this right now, continuing on a journey of discovery of my self and my past. Thank you for sharing

> It seems like, by default, you are stuck with whatever level of resourcefulness you brought to a problem the first time you encountered it and failed to fix it.

Brilliant.

Hm.

Its an easy trap to fall into to say that people are in hard situations because They Arent Trying Hard Enough.

Your manager might think so.

Your company probably thinks youre not trying hard enough.

…but, there is a also reality, which is overloading people with impossible expectations and then watching them fail isnt helpful.

Its not a learning experience.

Its just mean, and selfish… even when those expectations are, perhaps, self imposed.

If youre in one of these situations, you should ask for help.

If you see someone in them, you should offer to help.

Its well documented that gifted children struggle as adults because they struggle under the weigh of expectations.

The soltuion to this is extremely rarey self reflection about not trying hard enough.

Geez. Talk about setting people up for failure.

The OP literally succeeded by asking for help, yet somehow, walked away with no appreciation of it.

> People are not just high-agency or low-agency in a global sense, across their entire lives. Instead, people are selectively agentic.

Speaking of being agentic, you could probably just ask ChatGPT what to do next time you're not sure.

Also, people are made up of particles that behave deterministically. Agency is an illusion.

This is an idea that philosophers have played with in countless varieties, perhaps the one closest to the author's wording is Jean-Paul Sartre's concept of bad faith. Faced with anxiety, guilt or overwhelming weight of responsibility, it's often easier to subconsciously sidestep the problem and pretend you don't have a choice, even if you do. This is not even a conscious decision, it's hard to be aware of our own quirks and biases.