Ask HN: Why is everyone in tech so performative/two faced

3•bunnybomb2•39m ago

I am not technical I just like building and making friends and having fun inventing

It feels 70% of people I meet, are trying to determine what you can get them, if u r important enough or trying to butter you up in a coffee chat

What happened to building cool stuff, not having a ego and being real. Sorry if this isnt allowed. I dont know where else to post. Am i hanging out in the wrong crowds?

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andsoitis•36m ago

what kinds of things have you built?

bunnybomb2•33m ago

nothing that interesting or has made lots of money. Ive been making little projects and i like new ideas and inventing

made a couple social networks in high school + sold counterfeit hall passes i tried making a snowball gun toy lots of random businesses like 10+ and dropshipping right now working on a startup related to odor in healthcare/crime scene settings

Im not the coolest SaaS person on the block.. but just my take on what ive observed

danvayn•21m ago

Find a local space for the first thing or focus on something like the startup in particular and real spaces for that. Otherwise don’t succumb to the anecdotal bias

bunnybomb2•20m ago

I love the idea of accelerators and those spaces to meet others i just worry i wont fit in because i am not the most experienced or deep in tech. Thank you for the advice

nacozarina•33m ago

pick your clique: nerds & hustlers

the two tribes of tech

bunnybomb2•32m ago

im not smart enough to be around the nerds, but im not douchey enough to hang with the hustlers. I pick nerds. Hopefully they accept me.

polarberry33•22m ago

Lol.

pestatije•13m ago

because theres so much money in it...try the arts, social services, religion, primary and secondary sectors, and people are way nicer

bunnybomb2•11m ago

Ugh.. all those things are lame to me.

Haha!!

more_corn•6m ago

Try hanging out with people who have paying jobs doing the thing. (Not trying to break in, not founding a startup, not selling an idea). I worked at a FAANG company. People were honestly smart, capable, humble. (There was a strong correlation between the most effective tech people and their humility)

Maybe I got lucky. In retrospect I probably got super lucky.

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