All you find is stuff, presented as super valuable, and people very very keen to sell it to you. They’ll do whatever you want. It attracts a certain kind of person. The people who have the means for this lifestyle seem mostly disappointed.
It’s not the situation this guy has created for himself. His life has meaning, he’s of value to his employees and customers and partners.
Not everthing bought with money is superficial. Certainly a lot is less superficial than dedicating your life to “in app payments made easy”. Turning down generational wealth so you can continue to pursue your dream of being a tech CEO seems like a wildly selfish decision to me. Just start a new company!
Similarly, I don't understand why the CxOs in my current (BigTech) company still work. You're done. You can do anything you want and yet you voluntarily continue to amass more?
Has it occurred to you that perhaps what they want is to be the CxO of a big tech company? There’s a lot of power, prestige, and impact on society that you can’t easily have if you quit. Maybe they really enjoy the work itself too.
Also, companies are not the only kind of group someone can join (for money or not) with the goal of improving the world.
Things happen. Expensive things. The security to be able to afford expansive cancer care without worry, to pay for therapy and specialized schooling for your child… these are huge, huge things and they happen to you (or your children, or your children’s children) no matter what you do or don’t do. This isn’t just about being happy to be frugal.
That’s just a perspective on hardship, it’s not the only way. People deal with hardships with many many tools. My favorite tools are dignity, grace, courage, personal strength, and ingenuity. Money is another tool, yes, but it tends to prevent mastery of the others.
Elsewhere in the comments there was talk about legacy. You can give your kids a bank account, and the examples that you had money to pay off problems. Or you can give them something else through your example. I choose the latter.
Your hypotheticals simply aren't relevant here.
[0] https://web.archive.org/web/20190422235813/https://www.theat...
Sure, but I’m pretty sure if you asked those parents if they’d rather lose all their money to make parenting easier their answer would be a resounding “no”.
See perhaps Nick Maggiulli's post "The Ideal Level of Wealth":
> Financial Independence (28.6x Your Annual Spending): $3.5M. Assuming you never wanted to work again, you would need about 28.6x your annual spending to cover your costs indefinitely [$120,000 * 28.6 ~ $3,500,000]. This 28.6 comes from the Kitces research[1] showing that the 3.5% Rule[2] is the safe withdrawal rate for a 40-year time horizon and beyond. This research suggests that if you can make it 40 years while withdrawing 3.5% per year, then you’ll likely make it 50 years (or more).
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> Whether your goal is Coast FIRE or full financial independence, the ideal level of wealth in the U.S. is in the low-to-mid range of Level 4 ($1M-$10M), or $2M-$5M. I know this is a lot of money and many people will never reach it, but that’s why it’s an ideal. It’s something to strive for. It’s enough where you don’t have to worry about money anymore, but not so much that it becomes a burden or warps your identity.
* https://ofdollarsanddata.com/the-ideal-level-of-wealth/
Adjust the $120k annual spend for your own lifestyle and cost of living.
You're not going to fly private, but it will take most of the worry out of life. Morgan Housel, author of the recently release The Art of Spending Money (and previously The Psychology of Money):
> 00:50:16 […] You have the independence to be who you are and wake up every morning and say, I can do whatever I want today. That’s wealth.
* https://ritholtz.com/2025/11/transcript-morgan-housel-spend/
Will accept, I have no idea about his personal situation. Also feel the HN crowd may downvote my comment because it is not phrased correctly.
Buy freedom to chose what to do with your life. I've never sold a company and netted 9 figures but i have been lucky enough to work for a hedge fund and make enough that I and my family can do what ever we want from the age of 30 onwards.
That is an incredible amount of freedom and one that I wish most people would have.
You seem to think only in materialistic ways.
But having enough money to not have to work again allows you to be a better and more available parent. To be able to provide your kids and nieces and nephews with schooling to put them apart from other kids.
Its not always about owning another home, Just knowing that my kids are set for life before they start their own lives in case something happens to me was enough for me.
Lots of us think of others before ourselves.
Regain your own time. As a former CTO who has recently exited, recovering my own time again is more valuable to me than the money (although the money means I can retain my own time going forward).
> His life has meaning, he’s of value to his employees and customers and partners.
Your work is not you and if you think that way, you're gonna be crushed when you come to retire. Even though I loved what I did for a career, it's better to do what you love for yourself, not "employees and customers and partners". Many people have other interests outside of building tech, but even if building tech is your only thing, exiting is a chance at starting something fresh and on your own terms.
I could fit a solar system in the gap between your two options of a) full time CTO or b) 9 figures to ‘win back your time’.
Personally I believe you’ve been operating on autopilot, and not designing your life to suit your own needs.
You have no idea about me at all, so please don't insult me by thinking that you do.
Not that these things are required to “live,” but I certainly am not interested in making these tradeoffs.
So enjoy your situation while the good times roll, no shade, but people have their own reasons to never consider living in an SRO besides mere materialism.
BTW I was originally searching for an SRO but I landed a 'micro-apartment' (I just double-checked terms), it has its own kitchen/bathroom. Had I stopped looking I wouldn't have found this great situation. Great enough that when I won a housing lottery the following month, for a nicer apartment at the same rate, I was content to give it up and let someone else receive it.
Also: plenty of meaning outside of running a SaaS. Hell, undergraduate research assistants probably contribute more to societal at large.
Did his life not have meaning before he started this company?
It is like these people are hell bound to the work culture, diehard workaholics. They don't know anything else outside of a computer screen.
Honestly disgracefully.
There is a real mentality in many of the teams I've worked with that the "grind", "sacrifice", as the pound of flesh that must be offered up for success.
In reality it's far different. We need to make something of value and charge fairly for that value.
Teams can do this without the grind, and still be wildly successful. Teams can do the grind only and are typically not.
It's a false idol, and a lot of folks in the industry only have this to look up to so they don't know better.
It's because those of us doing the opposite, getting there with balance, aren't writing career focused articles around the holidays. Virtue signaling our work ethic. We're spending time with ourselves, our families, quietly succeeding.
This is a founder/CTO. You don't get to be a founder or C-level without making work a lot more of your life than just a 9-5.
As much as people complain about the C-suite not doing anything and spending all their time golfing, they're basically on work mode 24/7. I've never worked with a C-level who didn't check emails on the weekend, wasn't willing to travel at a moment's notice to close a deal, not willing to work to resolve business or tech emergencies at 1am, etc.
On top of that they always represent the company, even in their off time. Stuff that wouldn't matter for a regular employee might lead to termination or forced resignation. For example, kissing a woman who isn't your wife at a concert.[0]
This is all true even outside of tech. Ever talk to someone who owns a restaurant? They spend weekends and nights talking to suppliers, figuring out staffing, etc...
This doesn't represent typical non-executive jobs in the software industry. Most are largely 9-5. The ones with oncall expectations tend to pay more.
[0] https://www.cnn.com/2025/07/19/business/andy-byron-astronome...
Even with such a golden ticket ride to the heavens? You could do anything, focus on your family and build your little castle or depersonalize even, change countries, change your identity, make new connections, live a completely different life...
Some people like working a stable but boring 9-5. Some people like working a challenging job, even for longer hours and lower pay. Some people like building things; some people like coordinating teams and managing people; some people like maximizing financial returns and seeing numbers go up.
As to why this specific person didn't take a 9-figure cashout (assuming it's true); I would imagine it's at least partly because this person thinks it could be worth more in the future. Crazy as it sounds, he may not be wrong. Remember that Larry and Sergey tried to sell their "Google" research project to Yahoo for a life-changing amount of $1 million (in 1998, they could have each bought a house!). Or a million-dollar sale that did happen, Roy Raymond selling Victoria's Secret for a million in 1982. (Multiple houses!)
Obviously 9 figures is a lot different than 7, especially in 2025. But he's also the CTO and has access to financials and company strategy. Who's to say that the $100,000,000 he would get won't be $250,000,000 in an acquisition next year? Even "just" a 25% bump in a year would be an extra $25 million, which in itself is life-changing. It's obviously a risk, but saying "this guy is crazy and/or an idiot for not taking a 9 figure cashout" isn't fair unless you can peer into the future.
Different adventures, different life obsessions...
I’m not the single DRI for culture at all. We have many strong culture carriers, which has made scaling to 100 people much easier than scaling to 20. That said, culture is still one of the core responsibilities of founders, in my opinion.
Also, OCTO isn’t about me wanting to innovate. It’s about giving certain engineers permission to not be tied to a roadmap and to stay fluid.
1. We aren’t going to sell.
2. Confiding with your spouse with clear concerns about current levels of stress and time commitment.
3. We can resolve a lot of the stress and sustainability problems by (among other things) raising another funding round!?
I did a double take…isn’t that just inviting more stress, more pressure from investors, more expectation to grow and exit?
I find it hard to relate to this C-suite life and logic, it seems so hyper-capitalist and backwards. There are so many oddly revealing bits of this piece that are like a window into the world of an alien being compared to my perspective.
It’s like Star Trek where there’s an alien race for every personality type and/or representation of a dominant emotion. The C-suite aliens would build their society around building products, meeting customers, finding takeaways, making org changes, etc. Societal enjoyment comes from work accomplishments, and the family decides that stress and time apart is worth it because work is “your baby.” Not really quite like the Ferengi because the Ferengi would have taken the 9 figure exit and dumped it into the next scheme.
Meanwhile the viewer is most familiar with the even-keeled baseline of the Federation where they used their technology to end capitalism and spend their time exploring the galaxy and prioritizing their family and friends. You end the episode with “I’m glad I kept an open mind but I still wouldn’t want to be the C-suite aliens, I like hanging out with the Federation.”
This is the disconnect to me. This phrase has tech industry cult vibes to me.
I don’t see “freedom” and “building” as words that mesh together.
I see “building” as something I’m obligated to do to pay my bills. I do it because it’s preferable to other forms of labor. As soon as I have the financial means to stop doing it, I’m out.
I totally understand that there are people who relish in the challenge, feeling needed and important to their team, and the prestige and visibility, but I don’t really understand what their brains are doing and what.
OP talked about the luxury of being able to fly out the grandparents to help out taking care of the kids when things get busy at work. That doesn’t sound like freedom to me.
Year ten, my partner turned around and stuck a knife in my back, and I found myself railroaded out and battered into submission by lawyers. Exited with token equity, and a small cash payment to get me to fuck off so they could gut the company.
Retrospectively, I should have quit while I was ahead, and I should have realised that while I cared about the company, it did not care about me.
Also, cofounders… you never find out who they actually are until one night you hear the click of the hammer of the gun against your head cocking.
This motivation is like a strange curiosity to me. This pursuit of product is so foreign to me, and from the outside it doesn’t seem healthy. But I guess if the Klingon like going into glorious battles to the death better than chilling at home with their family, who am I to question their motivation?
I build stuff at work because it’s a financial obligation, because it’s better than cleaning bathrooms or waiting tables for a living. If I had some kind of better option for paying my bills with less labor involved I’d take it in a heartbeat.
The author talks about himself and his co-founder Jacob and they went back and forth on whether to sell or not.
I am very interested in what the other 118 employees thought. Did they want the co-founders to sell? What was their equity in the company? What kind of deal would they get? Accelerated vesting? Much larger than normal RSU stock grant at the acquiring company compared to a normal new hire there? Nothing?
I post this link in many threads about startups about how the normal employees often get nothing. The author says "So we decided to raise another round" and I wonder if the co-founders share the liquidation preferences and captables with the other 118 employees.
https://www.reddit.com/r/startups/comments/a8f6xz/why_didnt_...
I posted this comment in a different startup related thread last month but I really wish the CEOs of both startups would have accepted these lower offers.
I don't know what the captable was at the first startup but at the second I would have got around $300K. This would have been a large amount of money for me but the founders wanted more so they rejected the offer.
Almost every "normal" level employee thought we should have taken the deal and then we would have also gotten jobs with normal RSU grants and bonuses at the acquiring company which was a well established company.
It made me decide to never work at a startup again. I don't want a single person to be able to control my financial situation that much. I'd rather have the relatively guaranteed yearly raise, bonus, and RSU grant, and not have to drink the Kool-Aid of the founders.
> I worked at 2 startups. Both failed.
> The first had been around for about 4 years when I joined and had products that made money. They were trying to get acquired. They had partnered with 2 companies making products specifically for them. One of them offered to buy the company for $30 million but the founders thought their company was worth $300 million. They said no and then money started to run out and people started leaving. In the end the assets were sold for $2 million.
> The second startup was created by former coworkers and I joined after it had existed for 4 months. We worked like crazy for the first year and got our prototype out. We had a lot of interest but it took me a while to realize that the 3 founders already had net worths from $5 million to billionaire level. When I heard about offers in the $30 million range they just weren't interested in selling for so little. I left after 3 years and the company floundered another 2 years until they shut it down as people left.
Don’t take it so personally. I did once too.
If the employees think they know better, there’s nothing stopping them from starting their own businesses and destroying their boss.
This is easier said than done.
The founders of many startups are extremely charismatic. They can get you to sacrifice your personal / family life and work long hours by dangling the big pay day in front of you.
The second startup I worked at let the first 8 employees buy into the company for Class A shares. These in theory were worth more than the Class B shares I was given. This later led to some marital issues when one guy invested $100K into the startup based on the founder taking everyone out to dinner and assuring the wives it was a great idea. Then 3 years later they have turned down 2 possible sales, no exit plan in site, and that $100K would have been useful for the children's tuition who are about to go to college.
I write these posts are warnings to people who get excited about the appeal of working for a startup.
So I would really love to hear the author talk about what his employees thought about turning down the deal and how much money they would have got.
It isn’t reasonable to expect the founders to do an employee’s bidding when it comes to selling a company, but it is reasonable for the employees to feel emotionally invested.
Say you have nine figures in your account. Would you push it all into this company to be able to have a fun job? Seems completely insane to me.
F You Money means you can spin up whatever projects you want for the rest of your life. Even if your dream job is worth $100m to you, is the delta between this job and your realistic best alternative really worth that much?
Speaking as a co-founder CTO, I believe there is a very insidious kind of attachment that forms when you’re dancing with burnout, and working on a successful company that you’ve built from the ground up.
“I want to leave a dent in the universe” I told myself. After 3 months in a hammock decompressing, I very quickly realized that there is more to life than work, and it’s really easy to find fulfillment building things if you get bored. But this viewpoint is really hard to hold onto when you’re buried in the day to day excitement of the job.
At least for me, regular financial decision making breaks down once the numbers are above a certain amount.
E.g. You won’t feel 10x better about a $100m windfall vs. a $10m windfall.
The best case scenario for a lot of founders is to do a secondary, cash out / de-risk, and keep on building.
That’s the route I took. Paired with obsessive focus on work/life balance, I don’t regret taking this route.
A CTO is a common title at medium and larger law firms, and an office of the CTO for that org sounds like a great idea.
What is too much is asking an Engineering Manager to start a completely independent product line that may go nowhere. It’s far more effective to rely on senior, staff+ engineers who don’t need management and have experience taking things from 0 to 1. They can build an MVP quick. Once we see real signals of PMF, we can then build a team around it (or drop it)
But HN now is full of people completely removed from any kind of entrepreneurial mindset, people who aren’t “hackers” even in the most generous sense. They will not agree.
Keyboard warriors is probably the best descriptor of HN demo now.
The CTO fiddled with greenfield projects that had no path to products while the house burned down.
The best that can be said about it is that inventions outside of the product helped beef up Nokia’s patent portfolio, which played a role in the company surviving the post-phone years and transforming into a pure network company. But they lost a trillion-dollar opportunity and shrunk into an average B2B enterprise.
Android changed all that, all of the sudden all their competitors got a good OS for free. Commoditize your complement, Google took their markets.
Having a CTO pet group isn’t the best use of the CTOs time. If you want to have better architecture and explore greenfield projects, you need an organization that supports R&D through cross functional groups.
A CTO should NOT be doing greenfield projects. A CTO should be setting technical vision and strategy for the entire company.
tl;dr - delusional founder writes AI slop reflection narrative recast as “vision” and “conviction.”
Makes more sense given a. prototypical cto ego (and insecurity) amplified by b. he’s Spanish (ifyyk)
Thousands of words to justify the rejection of a nine-figure exit and he never seriously addresses what the exit would mean for employees or investors. “I’m a builder,” “I need to work with inspiring people,” “I’d be bored after two weeks.”
Hard to ignore the glaring contradictions amidst the AI slop. He sets “networking with executives” as a top annual goal, then says “networking is mostly bullshit.” He calls out two separate “biggest fires” for the year: first, reliability/support issues; later, hiring velocity. On one hand he’s bragging about “not having to do anything,” but takes credit for every success (“my foundation-building,” “org design I set up,” etc).
Median senior engineering salaries in Spain are a fraction of those in the U.S. - you can take the founder out of spain…but you can’t…
And yet, the “nine-figure” rejection is repeated over and over. If it was such an easy, confident choice, why does it need so much explanation? Can’t wait to read more about CTO insecurity and a need for public validation. What’s Lemkin got to say?
I've been the CTO twice in my career, and am in a pure engineering role now and get a lot more satisfaction out of my job.
How so? I think it's possible. Network, linkedin etc. And in startups it's not that bureaucratic in my experience. I think you can achieve that ;)
I mean, you could house, feed or educate people and you chose to...not do that ? To have more ? Is there a endgame you are not sharing with us, a special number that would make it OK to sell ?
raw_anon_1111•1mo ago
VCs aren’t interested in a lifestyle business throwing them maybe a small dividend and a miniscule number of companies go public. Look at YC, they have invested in thousands of companies and only around 20 have gone public and only 3 have had positive returns since going public
https://medium.com/@Arakunrin/the-post-ipo-performance-of-y-...
airstrike•1mo ago
If anything, it's an endorsement of M&A.
raw_anon_1111•1mo ago
Once you take outside funding, you really have no choice but an acquisition or go public. VCs don’t want to get tiny dividend checks. Even public shareholders will insist on a sale at the right price
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> Even public shareholders will insist on a sale at the right price
airstrike•1mo ago
Public shareholders generally don't insist on anything as they are dispersed. They may elect directors to the board, but that question gets into all sorts of dynamics about who actually really votes when annual meetings come around, board independence, activist shareholders and whatnot.
Put all of that aside and assume for a second that directors are a perfect representation of shareholder interests. Boards do not "insist on a sale". Instead, they may have the _fiduciary duty_ to consider bona fide acquisition offers and take the decision that maximizes shareholder value, triggered upon certain conditions (cf Revlon Duties)
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airstrike•1mo ago
I don't know the specifics of your company so I can't give you valuation advice, but I'd just like to add that, in my experience, I've seen lots of C-level teams and Directors refuse to sell even when a great offer was on the table because they believed they were worth more. In numerous cases, it turns out they were wrong and the company either fizzled out or sold to a different buyer a year or two later for much less than they could have gotten.
I'm talking refusing a $3.5 billion offer because you think you're worth $4B, only to sell for $2B later.
Not every deal is a good deal, but remember as an insider who's built the company you're also likely somewhat biased. There's nothing morally wrong about selling if it is quote-unquote "the right price".
I can't really name names in public, but email is in profile if you ever want to chat
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