> They text when they have no reason to text. They suggest the coffee. They make the plan. They do not keep score.
Not keeping score is an important part. A lot of people reach out, then think it’s the other person’s turn.
My dad has maintained a large group of friends into his 70s. People from all stages of his life. He understands people are busy with their lives, and doesn’t take it personally when they don’t call to set things up. He reaches out, he makes the plans, and as a result he has a rich social life in retirement.
I have this example, but still find it difficult. I imagine it gets easier with practice.
stroz•2w ago
I believe your dad figured out the secret! The people who never run out of friends are the ones who stopped counting whose turn it is.
rekabis•2w ago
ADD/ADHD wanders into the chat, howls with laughter at the suggestion given
al_borland•2w ago
Not keeping score is an important part. A lot of people reach out, then think it’s the other person’s turn.
My dad has maintained a large group of friends into his 70s. People from all stages of his life. He understands people are busy with their lives, and doesn’t take it personally when they don’t call to set things up. He reaches out, he makes the plans, and as a result he has a rich social life in retirement.
I have this example, but still find it difficult. I imagine it gets easier with practice.
stroz•2w ago