That long duration stress from caring for a loved one with a potentially fatal illness is difficult to describe. I remember sharing that same driving thought of “if this goes south, will I honestly be able to say I did everything I could?”

I'm... concerned for the health of this man. I appreciate his dedication, but I read a level of love that's pressing past caring for the human and into beating yourself up.

Did she ask you to cure this tumor? Did she ask you to post about it?

This is a common story in disability and chronic illness communities -- a partner gets so fixated on the illness they forget the human afflicted with it. The ill partner goes to the grave wishing their partner would stop fighting and start just spending their remaining time filling their lives with joy.

It leads to especially dark places when they don't succeed.

I wish him all the best, but don't lose sight of the human suffering the illness and what they want.

My girlfriend also has this and I just found out my coworker has been dealing with it for some time. Has me wondering just how common it is