This is common, stage of life stuff. From 64, let me say that it gets better, and that seeking professional advice about your state of mind is a solid investment. I did and never regretted it.

If I had a time machine which only went back to my 40s I'd possibly only say invest more for the future and exercise a shitload more. Most of the really embarrassing faux pas happened before this time.

I would also say deciding not to tear up my personal and work relationships like so many around me and instead invest in fixing what's wrong in them paid off.

40's a breeze, 41 is the bastard.

Try not looking at your life as "by now I should have done X". Instead realise that all you've experienced and learned will make you more effective going forward.

Start exercising hard. You're not going to go pro, but 40-50 is the best decade to get into peak shape and participate in some new recreational sports or activities.

I may get some flak for this, but start paying attention to skincare. Botox + anti-aging treatments, well applied, can do an awful lot of good.

Stay up-to-date on new tech, particularly AI. Tyler Cowen was talking about this last month, basically saying that the people who are now 40 are going to be the ones most at risk of being left behind. (http://marginalrevolution.com/marginalrevolution/2025/05/wha...)

50% of your life is not gone.

you have lived 50% of your life.

we live the life that is in front of us, and that is it.

life has always been a struggle. we can always assume that the rich and powerful live wonderful lives, but again this is a fantasy to make us feel better while we struggle living our own lives.

The rich and powerful are not exempt from psychological distress and struggle.

A house is a house, a family is a family, a car is a car, it doesnt matter how much they cost or how valuable they are. It is the value that we as individuals put on those things that are important to us, that makes the difference.

Im nearly 70. I am in the final years of my life.

These days I reflect back on a life well lived.

that is all we can do.

There is nothing special about life, we live and then we die. it is what we do while we are here that is important.

40 for me was the beginning of a new adventure. Afer 4 years of study, I had just qualified as a therapeutic counsellor and started going to university to do my masters degree in psychotherapy.

40s here - I see it a bit differently. I definitely get what you're feeling, and it's not easily fixed, but I feel very differently about the 50% of life gone.

I feel like I've had ~20 years of 'conscious adult' life, and I have at least 40 left (hopefully) - so only ~33% is gone !

Anyway, "Life is not the amount of breaths you take, it's the moments that take your breath away"

Growth is metamorphosis. You'll have to let go of who you were and become someone new. You don't lose the past, you digest it. Whether you're going from single to married, IC to manager, you have to fully embrace the role you take.

Sometimes it feels like a step downwards - divorces, lost family members, career changes. Some have kids and can't do the things they once did. And in time, you'll pick up injuries and health problems. If you plan to fight and resist change, do so, but if you can't, then accept the new roles.

Imagine I offered you $5 million USD, every psychedelic drug regardless of law, every hedonistic dream you ever had, unlimited booze, whatever you want, nothing forced on you.

Do you take it knowing the addiction risks? You obviously say yes! Perhaps you just accept for the 5 million?

But what if the consequence is that you die in 24 hours? You quickly change your mind. No way do you take that. I 10x everything, $50 million usd. I even arranged and schedule the perfect 24 hours of hedonism before it starts. You still decline right?

You just found out, waking up each morning is worth more than $50 million usd.

In life, you have 3 big luggages to carry around. The past(40 years of 'struggle and negativity'), the present, and the future that you cant predict.

You can only carry 1 luggage. If you carry the future luggage, you're going to be fearful and anxiety from your imagination. "But what if ___ happens if i do X"

If you carry the past, you're going to ruminate about things that you cant change.

The only luggage you can carry is the present. Live the present moment. Carpe Diem.

It doesnt matter your age, in 300 years from now... Trump will be remembered. Virtually nobody else will be remembered. Spend your day in a way that you enjoy because nobody else cares or will remember what you did.