It's 100% a problem of dynamic range for me. I dunno how 128 channel cinematic spectaculars are mixed down to stereo, but I wouldn't mind a little compression. Can home releases offer an alternative "pleb mix" or something?

Turn it up to hear the dialogue, then rapidly turn it down when music, explosion, just basic background noise is often the volume that would annoy your neighbors, then turn it up again to hear the dialog.

Dunno if it's because it's all mixed for cinema or 5.1 and then badly turned to stereo but something they're doing is trash for 99% of those watching.