I like that bit about optimizing for not going bankrupt vs. windfall

Idk you hear these phrases all the time excelsior, shoot for the stars land in the moon, etc... gotta actually apply it

Tangent about drugs I wish I felt like I did when on the snow all the time damn, what a great mindset like anything is possible, same with adhd meds but I can see how it would be bad too not having fear/self doubt eg. "I'm gonna jump off this building and land over there", over confidence

Oh this was about 10 yrs ago I was partaking I'm not in that env anymore where I can easily source stuff, now it's just alochol

I hadn’t heard the word countersignaling before, but it matches something I had observed many years ago.

My closest groups of friends always make so much fun of each other. We make negative comments about the worst traits about each other, the things that we are most self-conscious about… yet every time my friends make fun of me for something I worry about, I actually feel better and more comfortable with myself.

When I thought about why, I realized it’s because of the hidden message behind the ridicule of my longtime friends; they are telling me, “we are keenly aware of the worst qualities about you, and we love you and want to spend time with you anyway.”

There is comfort in knowing you don’t have to hide your flaws to be accepted and loved.

I find merit with the core point as well the delivery.

I wish it was more commonly accepted that choosing not to act is effectively a stand against one's own value system in favor of the value systems of those who do act.

As a person with social anxiety and a fear of being disliked I get to be the person that people love to talk about how much they hate all of the people that don't fear being disliked and all of the ways they are getting either getting screwed by other people or are being screwed by other people. We really deserve the society we live in

This rings true to me as someone who's overcome most of his social anxiety over the last few years. The last graph is particularly correct. It's about being authentic and being okay with people not liking you. This is especially useful in dating because then you stop being needy (which is unattractive) when you can let go of the outcome and just show someone who you are and if they reject you then you simply realize that they aren't the person you were looking for because you were looking for someone who likes you for who you are.

Is the person who wrote the post qualified to say this though? Like are these statements the result of scientific research or just his opinion like my opinion?

I'm not autistic, but scientific consensus would totally disagree with the entire article:

https://www.nature.com/articles/srep40700

>Neurotypical Peers are Less Willing to Interact with Those with Autism based on Thin Slice Judgments

>across three studies, we find that first impressions of individuals with ASD made from thin slices of real-world social behavior by typically-developing observers are not only far less favorable across a range of trait judgments compared to controls

Just seeing the person on a still image or hearing them is enough to dislike ASD. The only case where they were accepted seems to be purely text based convo. ASD can literally just exist peacefully in a group and be disliked on purely passive visual cues such as gait. There is no over or under-compensating required. I have noticed that people at my workplace avoid my depressed co-worker as if it was a contagion, at least he has my support.

I'd assume many other conditions have similar negative effects outside of the control of the affected person.