My ADHD diagnosis entirely changed my life. It gave me the tools to stop blaming myself every single day.

Even if I didn’t get the chance to take meds I wouldn’t have traded it for the world.

It can help you, to hack your own behavior and avoid exhausting, self-damaging solutions you use to "mask" and blend in. If you can not function in a similar way, all attempts todo so are doomed to fail and result in burnout. So a diagnosis, if it is correct, helps you to avoid these traps and archive your goals, without self-destructive behavior - making it a good thing.

What it should not be - is a excuse to park dysfunction into the public, which has certain standards everyone should be able to uphold. You do not get to be rude, because smalltalk exhausts you- you get to avoid smalltalk while not being rude and society will accept that.

A diagnosis is not a doctors prescription to some limited form of sociopathy, that excuses you permanently from helping to uphold civil society and contributing to humanity.Its also not a invitation to hold yourself or others hostage, threatening self-harm or compliance to social rules as goods of trade.