It presents a thought I have not thought about before. Whether, as some other commenters suggest, the hypothesis that you are dating an ecosystem, has always been true is a different question.
My wife will notice a change in me tonight. That's because I've taken on another advisor.
> What used to be a disagreement becomes “emotional labor.” A bad mood gets labeled “toxic energy.” Forgetting to text becomes “avoidant attachment.” Opinions from friends, refreshed by the hour.
Smells like the angst of some recently dumped man. The girl is a slave to the whims of tik tok candy therapists but the boy is influenced by "ghosts." Please.
What this post is hitting upon correctly is that people are products of their environment, and trying to perfectly separate the two is impossible.
In fact, I would guess the strongest relationships are those where those are shared.
I made this point elsewhere in thread, but another difference is the daily content aspect of online influencers. Instead of reading one or two shallow, vapid articles a month about "what's wrong with your relationship" they are seeing new content every day, and they are mostly seeing the content that is upsetting the most people.
96% AI generated according to gptzero.
Which I wouldn't mind, honestly, if it had something useful, insightful, or original to say.
In a way I'm glad it doesn't seem to be written by a human:
> What used to be a disagreement becomes “emotional labor.”
> A bad mood gets labeled “toxic energy.”
This sounds like someone who dismisses their partner's feelings as fragmented memes, and sees her as almost brain-washed by the algorithm.
It contrasts this against a time where a relationship was something entirely different, where he could know everyone she's interacting with.
> And it doesn’t stop there.
> She has friends.
God forbid...
If this was a person and not an AI, they would sound incredibly controlling. Maybe the "toxicity" and "red flag" ideas didn't form in a vacuum?
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jeremyjh•57m ago
The closest thing I can think of to something like that were certain types of magazines but they'd come out monthly, you weren't steeped in it.
gwd•58m ago