All you find is stuff, presented as super valuable, and people very very keen to sell it to you. They’ll do whatever you want. It attracts a certain kind of person. The people who have the means for this lifestyle seem mostly disappointed.
It’s not the situation this guy has created for himself. His life has meaning, he’s of value to his employees and customers and partners.
Not everthing bought with money is superficial. Certainly a lot is less superficial than dedicating your life to “in app payments made easy”. Turning down generational wealth so you can continue to pursue your dream of being a tech CEO seems like a wildly selfish decision to me. Just start a new company!
Similarly, I don't understand why the CxOs in my current (BigTech) company still work. You're done. You can do anything you want and yet you voluntarily continue to amass more?
Things happen. Expensive things. The security to be able to afford expansive cancer care without worry, to pay for therapy and specialized schooling for your child… these are huge, huge things and they happen to you (or your children, or your children’s children) no matter what you do or don’t do. This isn’t just about being happy to be frugal.
That’s just a perspective on hardship, it’s not the only way. People deal with hardships with many many tools. My favorite tools are dignity, grace, courage, personal strength, and ingenuity. Money is another tool, yes, but it tends to prevent mastery of the others.
Elsewhere in the comments there was talk about legacy. You can give your kids a bank account, and the examples that you had money to pay off problems. Or you can give them something else through your example. I choose the latter.
[0] https://web.archive.org/web/20190422235813/https://www.theat...
Sure, but I’m pretty sure if you asked those parents if they’d rather lose all their money to make parenting easier their answer would be a resounding “no”.
Buy freedom to chose what to do with your life. I've never sold a company and netted 9 figures but i have been lucky enough to work for a hedge fund and make enough that I and my family can do what ever we want from the age of 30 onwards.
That is an incredible amount of freedom and one that I wish most people would have.
You seem to think only in materialistic ways.
But having enough money to not have to work again allows you to be a better and more available parent. To be able to provide your kids and nieces and nephews with schooling to put them apart from other kids.
Its not always about owning another home, Just knowing that my kids are set for life before they start their own lives in case something happens to me was enough for me.
Lots of us think of others before ourselves.
Regain your own time. As a former CTO who has recently exited, recovering my own time again is more valuable to me than the money (although the money means I can retain my own time going forward).
> His life has meaning, he’s of value to his employees and customers and partners.
Your work is not you and if you think that way, you're gonna be crushed when you come to retire. Even though I loved what I did for a career, it's better to do what you love for yourself, not "employees and customers and partners". Many people have other interests outside of building tech, but even if building tech is your only thing, exiting is a chance at starting something fresh and on your own terms.
I could fit a solar system in the gap between your two options of a) full time CTO or b) 9 figures to ‘win back your time’.
Personally I believe you’ve been operating on autopilot, and not designing your life to suit your own needs.
You have no idea about me at all, so please don't insult me by thinking that you do.
Also: plenty of meaning outside of running a SaaS. Hell, undergraduate research assistants probably contribute more to societal at large.
Your identity is tightly fused with the company -- You speak about the company as your primary source of meaning, energy, and long-term purpose. -- Life outside the company is framed as something that would quickly feel empty or boring for you.
You retain control under the banner of high standards -- The VP of Engineering search stalled because no candidate met a bar that is implicitly shaped by how you think, operate, and decide. -- When leverage through delegation feels risky, responsibility naturally flows back to you.
You are the center of cultural gravity -- Culture, values, language, and priorities are largely authored and reinforced by you personally. -- Much of the organization's shared meaning still routes through your judgment and voice.
You delegate execution, but not full ownership -- Even when you are not directly involved, successes are framed as outcomes of foundations you previously built. -- This keeps you psychologically present in nearly every major win.
You created a parallel structure that still depends on you -- OCTO exists to do zero-to-one work, unblock hard problems, and pursue opportunistic bets. -- By design, it reports directly to you and sits outside normal org constraints, reinforcing dependence on your judgment.
You remain the default DRI for existential issues -- Reliability, support breakdowns, reorgs, executive hiring, culture, and innovation still escalate to you. -- This conflicts with the principle you explicitly endorse: if there is no DRI, don’t expect it to get done.
You have not made yourself truly replaceable -- There is no clear path for a future CTO with comparable scope, authority, and trust. -- The role, as it exists today, is inseparable from you.
Your personal fulfillment shapes strategic decisions -- The decision not to sell is framed largely through your motivation, energy, and desire to keep building. -- The company functions as a long-term vehicle for self-actualization now that financial stress is gone.
If this remains unchanged, the long-term risks are predictable: -- Senior leaders will eventually hit a ceiling. -- Innovation will bottleneck on your bandwidth. -- Strong leaders may leave quietly in search of real ownership. -- Succession becomes a deferred crisis rather than a designed transition.
Anonymous text on the internet, especially from accounts made after 2022/2023, are like steel post nuclear tests. Everything on the planet is tainted and the only things that can be relatively trusted are steel/text created prior to the tainting event
Here are questions I would ask if I were on your board.
1. If you stepped away for six months, what would actually break? not emotionally, but operationally?
2. Which decisions still require your involvement today that should not? and why haven’t you let them go?
3. Is there any executive role at this company you could fully replace yourself in right now? If not, what does that say about how you’ve built the org?
4. Are you rejecting executive candidates because they’re weak or because they would force you to change how you operate?
5. What critical work only exists because it still routes through you?
6. Is OCTO a temporary incubator or a permanent workaround for your inability to decentralize zero-to-one work?
7. How many senior leaders are truly accountable without needing your implicit approval?
8. Are you optimizing this company for scale or for a version of the future where you still feel indispensable?
9. What would have to be true for selling the company to be the responsible decision, not the exciting one?
10. If the company needed you to be less central in order to become great, could you accept that?
It is like these people are hell bound to the work culture, diehard workaholics. They don't know anything else outside of a computer screen.
Honestly disgracefully.
There is a real mentality in many of the teams I've worked with that the "grind", "sacrifice", as the pound of flesh that must be offered up for success.
In reality it's far different. We need to make something of value and charge fairly for that value.
Teams can do this without the grind, and still be wildly successful. Teams can do the grind only and are typically not.
It's a false idol, and a lot of folks in the industry only have this to look up to so they don't know better.
It's because those of us doing the opposite, getting there with balance, aren't writing career focused articles around the holidays. Virtue signaling our work ethic. We're spending time with ourselves, our families, quietly succeeding.
This is a founder/CTO. You don't get to be a founder or C-level without making work a lot more of your life than just a 9-5.
As much as people complain about the C-suite not doing anything and spending all their time golfing, they're basically on work mode 24/7. I've never worked with a C-level who didn't check emails on the weekend, wasn't willing to travel at a moment's notice to close a deal, not willing to work to resolve business or tech emergencies at 1am, etc.
On top of that they always represent the company, even in their off time. Stuff that wouldn't matter for a regular employee might lead to termination or forced resignation. For example, kissing a woman who isn't your wife at a concert.[0]
This is all true even outside of tech. Ever talk to someone who owns a restaurant? They spend weekends and nights talking to suppliers, figuring out staffing, etc...
This doesn't represent typical non-executive jobs in the software industry. Most are largely 9-5. The ones with oncall expectations tend to pay more.
[0] https://www.cnn.com/2025/07/19/business/andy-byron-astronome...
Even with such a golden ticket ride to the heavens? You could do anything, focus on your family and build your little castle or depersonalize even, change countries, change your identity, make new connections, live a completely different life...
raw_anon_1111•2h ago
VCs aren’t interested in a lifestyle business throwing them maybe a small dividend and a miniscule number of companies go public. Look at YC, they have invested in thousands of companies and only around 20 have gone public and only 3 have had positive returns since going public
https://medium.com/@Arakunrin/the-post-ipo-performance-of-y-...
airstrike•1h ago
If anything, it's an endorsement of M&A.
raw_anon_1111•1h ago
Once you take outside funding, you really have no choice but an acquisition or go public. VCs don’t want to get tiny dividend checks. Even public shareholders will insist on a sale at the right price
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