It’s my responsibility into the later and me assuming their responsibility in the former.
Unexpectedly becoming the sole caregiver of an aging parent seems different to me. I can imagine some resentment, especially if it’s unexpected _and_ one is already the caregiver for their own spouse, children, etc. It changes your life plans, adds additional daily stress in your life, and may also add financial stress.
Something tells me this doesn't account for the court orders.
Makes sense too if you stay together for the kids, then the kids aren’t kids anymore
Another aspect possibly driving this: In USA a lot of people get divorced immediately after a cancer (or similar) diagnosis. That way only one of you goes bankrupt and you get to keep half your lifetime savings.
That's not why it happens.
If the wife gets ill, the marriage has about a 20% chance of ending because of it. If the husband becomes ill, there is only a 3% chance. It has nothing to do with financials and everything to do with the husbands lack of desire to care for their wife.
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.h...
When a wife gets ill, she has a high chance of finding out how much her husband actually thought of her.
https://retractionwatch.com/2015/07/21/to-our-horror-widely-...
People who left the study were actually miscoded as getting divorced.
After the adjustment the correlation was less but was still there.
- First-time parenthood is frequently occurring later in life
- Couples are more often having (additional) children at later ages
- Children are sometimes not "launching" until later in their 20s.
My pet theory is an increase in treatments for "low testosterone" is a non-trivial contributor.
[1] https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/31326436/
[2] https://www.apa.org/monitor/dec06/testosterone
[3] https://uk.style.yahoo.com/men-high-testosterone-more-likely...
there are other things you can do to preserve your bodies natural T production. there are medications that induce it but its not been studied for long term use. there is also another hormone you can take called HCG that will cause your body to continue making test but its difficult to use.
cricalix•2h ago
Baader-Meinhof•1h ago
Interestingly, their relationship became much better after and they are ok as friends now.
newAccount2025•29m ago
GP’s comment vs yours mirror my brother’s reaction vs my reaction when our parents divorced. Same divorce, completely different feelings about it.
331c8c71•35m ago