Investments are bets. Most sane investors aren't putting it all on one thing

Startups are bets

Applying for jobs. Sales. Dating. Health. Basically everything

You risk $X money and time for a payoff of $Y that comes Z%

You can make the best decision and have a bad outcome because there are so many unknowns. This isn't chess

You can play everything wrong and still hit it out of the park

I mean this is one of the range of outcomes that could've happened. You can't declare yourself a success or failure from one project

Just keep making good decisions and don't risk it all, and you'll more than likely end up fine

The anxiety over expectations can kill you. It’s self abuse - people (investors, bosses, spouses) don’t invest in you for your anxiety driven productivity, they do it because of who you are outside of that worry. It’s hard to replace it if you consider it your motor. Let the desire to do well and good stay, but let the fear of others disappointment go, and the fantasy that we can control those outcomes by squeezing every last drop out of ourselves.

This, when unchecked, can lead to self inflicted, unnecessary pressure on myself. And failure to meet the impossible deadlines, created downward spiral.

I think this is normal, everyone went through the same thing. That’s why some VCs filter for megalomaniacs, zealots, or people who have no idea what pain is, because the journey is insane arduous.

The pain magnifies if the startup is located in VHCOL. Every month a whale appears and eat a big chunk of your runway. Who wouldn’t have anxiety?

As someone who fantasizes about running my own thing, working for a few start-ups have made me very stringent on what my requirements are for starting something (co-founders, investment, location, market). And also that these requirements have become so very risk-averse that I probably am not the personality profile to run a business! Nevermind the endless imposter syndrome.