Honestly why 10 years ago in SF I stopped telling people I’m a software engineer when we chat at a bar. It was relentless.
Please don't do what this post says. As someone at a bar I would appreciate you leaving me alone without me having to assert my right to a private conversation.
Also consider that disclosing your work in public means subsequent attempts to patent anything are toast (unless each stranger signs you an NDA first).
Are you suggesting that people trying to have a drink are going to rush out and patent something based on what some asshole was trying to drunkenly describe to them?
I can only speak from my own experience that both the tech scene and bar scene have changed dramatically.
A single instance is not a bad thing, but once it becomes a repeated occuance it is terrible.
With this particular case, the threshold is likely to be in expectation. If you approach people and any of them are aware of this concept in advance, they might feel used. If they know what you are going to do before you start talking then the entire atmosphere has already been polluted.
It might be easier to think of it in ecological terms. Sustainability and limiting harms mark the core of what should govern human endeavours. If the bar was considered an ecological environment, the harm would be in negatively impacting the enjoyment of customers. A single query from a stranger might do no harm. It might even enrich their evening experience. Done unsustainably however, results in a progressive reduction in the quality of experience across the ecosystem.
It's worse than that. It's interrupting people who are trying to enjoy their night out and demanding they review your homework for you.
If people don't flat out tell you to go away, they're going to try to make up something simple as quick as possible to fulfill your task in the hopes that it will make you leave them alone.
Like most of the hustle culture writing, it's based on a single experience that may or may not have actually happened: The author approached someone in a bar and had a conversation, and now they're preaching this method as some groundbreaking business technique.
Cold approaches like this are not, in my opinion, a good idea if you want valid feedback. When you approach random people in a bar and interrupt them with some request, many people will go into defensive mode where they try to tell you what you want to hear to de-escalate and get you to go away.
Note their reaction:
> Their reaction was notably disturbed!
The author noticed they didn't appreciate his question but pressed on anyway, demanding they give him some feedback. Many people will play along for a few minutes and try to deliver something that fulfills the request and lets them get away from the situation.
That doesn't mean it's good advice. Like most hustle culture writing pieces, I don't think this advice to go to bars and interrupt random people and demand their feedback is a good idea.
Because you interrupted their social outing with techbro baggery, including being kinda disingenuous about "a pitch coming up".
> Focus grouping. The only real difference is it is FREE.
A non-consensual focus group, in a venue where people are going partly to get away from biz BS they have to tolerate during the workday.
But if you're going to do it anyway, there is a convention in bars, of offering to buy a person a drink. Especially when it's an ambitious approach. No longer FREE.
chacham15•3h ago