Amazing.
And why do we evaluate this on something like hn?
Are you shaming a person for having sex or?
Sex has consequences like these people are seeing.
Consenting people can still make mistakes and ruin relationships where if they had exercised better judgment they wouldn't have had problems.
But the part where this woman cannot identify the father is definitely worth shaming.
And though having these two partners was unwise for this reason, it's not really a matter of shame so much as one where we should just find a practical solution that doesnt mess with the kid.
And no you are not allowed to shame other people for their decisions if its not clear that there is a kid getting abused in any way. People are adults and not yours to criticsize if it doesn't affect you or a 3th entity which can't protect itself.
Its your personal opionion you can easily and should keep yourself.
If one brother was pretending to be the other I blame him more.
And yes, I think when a person finds themselves in a situation like this they should be examining their life choices.
I don't know why it's on hn though.
Just because we conditioned ourselves like this, doesn't mean its right or wrong.
And this article doesn't give us enough insight to even judge.
Birth control is not perfect. 99% is very little in comparision to the amount of sex happening in a population of 8 billion people.
So I was almost disappointed when I read it properly.
Perhaps we fixup our society instead of blaming it to a woman?
You've literally just stated some objective facts and suggested we fix some of those challenges.
Btw. its also a lot harder for man to get the sole custody which means that only the most motivated and well suited men even achieve this probably also with an expensive lawyer.
So in avg man earn more and have more carerse because they do not stay at home for the children.
Also guess who normally gets custody? Yeah the mother. So having a man getting custidy is not normal at all. This skews the data massivly.
So as long as we are not experts here but a group of men earning above avg, we might not stereotype and dismiss genders.
That depends on the state, especially looking at after tax income due to the tax treatment on both sides.
"So having a man getting custidy is not normal at all. "
I agree there could be bias there. I think if we looked at households with deceased parents and then controlled for income, that would present a good elimination of bias.
And lets be honest here: A single father is so rare that this alone raises eyebrows and questions. Ironically more like positive reactions and dismissive ones against the woman.
I've never heard this and would be very interested in a source.
Better outcomes all around when the father is the only parent as opposed to when the mother is the only parent.
Because they are curious (consistent with the culture of this site). They would also be more likely to trust their own sources, I assume.
https://www.linkedin.com/pulse/why-single-father-households-...
Your approach is inhumane.
There's a lot of good material to discuss here.
I understand the reasoning that the inability to prove a positive does not suffice to prove a negative but clearly his presence on the birth certificate is a positive claim that has been ruled invalid - shouldn't it then be removed, at least temporarily?
pseudocoup•1d ago
What is the current state of the art in this type of testing? Why is a definitive result too far off but also too expensive?
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